Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Birthday!!

Soooo Sunday is N8's mom's birthday. She is sooo awesome. I never thought that I would get along with her as well as I do. Sometimes...i wish hung out more. I really do enjoy being around her and spending time with her. Some nights she and John will call us and invite us to go to Walmart with them or come and watch a movie. I really had a hard time when we moved out of their house. I loved our new house but missed having them around to talk with whenever I wanted.

Perhaps this is how normal families are and I am just not used to it...Mom and dad hardly call and invite us over so we make an effort at least on Sundays. We used to eat with N8's parents every sunday but Mom seemed offended and would always make little comments about how we never want to come over. I told her that it was because they never call and invite us. N8's parents call every week to see if we would like to come over. So last week I told mom that for Easter we will be with N8's family for dinner because it is his mom's birthday. I let her know that if she wanted, we could come this sunday for dinner. She said, "Oh, that's fine." That was IT!!! After a year of her complaining that we never come over for dinner, I finally take the initiative to invite ourselves over and she doesnt even seem happy or excited. Later that week we saw Mom and Janell at walmart and I reminded mom about sunday and asked if she wanted me to bring something. She said that it didnt matter, so i told her i would bring a fruit salad. Again, she just didnt seem to care. I asked her if something was wrong because she acted like this when she was mad and thought i had her cookbook(i dont want that to happen again). So instead of asking me if i had it, she let it fester and wouldnt talk to me. She ignored me for a few weeks until Bryce finally asked me because he was tired of hearing about it.

So on sunday, when we got there, we ate dinner, dad had a meeting to be at and so he left and then mom just left and went into her room...so N8 and I played Guitar Hero with Bryce for a while and them sat down for a game of Canasta. When dad got home, he came out for about 5 minutes but went back into his room too. Then eem said that he had to meet someone online and left to his room. I dont know if we are just boring or everyone has just moved on to better things. Errgghh! Anyway, it sucked.

So the reason I was really making this post is to say how cool my mother-in-law is and to find out what I can give her for her birthday. We used to give her little things from RC Willey but no longer can do that. If anyone has ideas, please let me know. Thanks!!!!

4 comments:

Hot MMMama! said...

I am sorry for your confusing stuff at dad's. A long time ago, at church, thaniel and lisbeth were being really rowdy... I looked over at them with a grumpy "I disaprove" look. As I looked over at them, my grumped up face crossed into Gleneen's line of sight... she thought I was glaring at her. For hours at home she was super angry and it took a lot of talking for us to figure out that it was a big 'ol misunderstanding. Some relieved laughter and a hug later, we were A-okay.

I think of that experience a lot, it was a huge teaching moment (or maybe "hours", cause it wasn't just a moment. lol). But, it really made me think about how many times we think we know what is going on in someone's head and maybe even get worried, offended or sad by a look or a word or a pouty walk to the bedroom. But most of the time, it's something as silly as a cook book and not worth getting too worried about. It still is lame while it's going on... but if it's important enough, you'll find out soon enough.

My guess, they were sneaking off for some "quality time"..... ;-/

I can hear the collective "EEEEWWWW!" No kids like to think about that, even all the grown up ones!

Hot MMMama! said...

Birthday gift Ideas:

Game to play all together

Outdoor decor to go with the new patio set (well, not so new now)

A scrapbook, with ready made pages she can just pop her photos into...for all the photos of your hang out sessions or so when she gets updated pictures of her kids families and grandkids, she can take the old ones out of the frames and put them right into the book.

Gift certificate to a restaurant so she gets the night off from cooking (a personal wish list item ;-)

Well, that is all I can think of right now. Good luck and let us know what you get her!

Anonymous said...

My favorite gift is to put pics in a frame - or just a picture that you really love of the both of you and tell her in the card with it how much she means to you. Thats also my favorite gift to receive. hint hint. haha

Im sooo sorry you still have to be faced with that garbage. I think the only reason she likes any of us is because we play hard to get. Good for you for doing the best job you can to still keep in touch with everyone. There is a lot of pain in that house, more so than I think they all realize and its an exhausting kind of pain. If anything, it might be very hard to be around someone who is happy and it may make them think they are irritated with you when they truthfully are just feeling out of place. Who knows. Maybe I'm totally wrong. From the sounds of it, Bryce stuck around! What do you think of his blond locks?

rubberbucketsaysso said...

wow. maybe it's not just me then. I find it so interesting that on holidays she's so concerned with being a good hostess, and otherwise, whatever. What makes me mad is that dad does it too, but I think that's rather that he has never really had to play host... I don't know. I would like to think that he's excited when we come by. Ah well. gift ideas- gift cards, no money ones- offer to make dinner for her and her husband and get the rest of the family out of the house for a night, a homemade card with tissue paper roses (remember those?) umm....look through your stuff, you might find some old thing someone else gave you that is very nice but which you've never used you can give her. I do this frequently with bath packages cause I only use some of the stuff and not the others.