So on friday, I saw Mom and Janell at walmart and they invited N8 and I to a Easter egg hunt at Chiska's house. They mostly planned it for Dallin's kids....they have been trying to get more involved with them while hoping that Dallin will be out in April. Caleb is 13 or 14?, Taylor is 11 or 12? and I know that Paige will be around 8 soon.
They had somewhere from about 50-100 eggs outside. I think Hunadu hid most of them and he got to hide the easter eggs too. He did a pretty good job. Afterwards, we had BBQ chicken, potatoes, pasta salad. Mom also made a second batch of hot cross buns because Janell was gone to Arizona on Good Friday...no one contested to more hot cross buns. They are my favorite because they aren't as rich as the other treats. They also had strawberry shortcake...but i was so full...i couldn't have anymore.
During dinner, Janell brought up Dallin coming home and about Dallin staying with Chiska. Around Christmas time, mom and Janell had asked if N8 and I would let Dallin stay at our house because he needed to live somewhere that didn't have children under 18. Of course N8 didnt like it at all and I was pretty concerned myself that they would even ask us. I tried to change the subject but ended up just leaving the room to avoid an awkward situation. We haven't said yes or no...mostly to avoid conflict. If they really need a place for Dallin, N8 and I think that Bryce can stay with us and Dallin can live at home. I dont think that Dad would like that so I hope that the parole officer will allow Dallin at Chiska's house.
Anyway, afterwards, Bryce, N8, Chiska and I played Guitar Hero then Andy showed us his huge music collection. It was pretty fun. My battery died about 5 minutes after we got there...I was running around and making people pose so I could get everyone that was there.
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Woah...thats a tough one. I mean- like really tough. On the one hand, if Nate really really doesn't want to then I guess it doesn't even need to be discussed but on the other hand- if you guys would be willing to think about it...
Lets say, he does actually come stay with you. The chances that he will be there very often are really slim, right? His family will be there picking him up ALL the time. You and he would rarely be alone together- and I know he would only be respectful to you. He has gone thru so much and has grown monumentally- you may find that he will become one of your most loyal friends..especially at a time when he is most vulnerable. I know its the classic Mormon answer but I would definitely pray really hard about this. Not because I think you need to pray for strength to allow him to stay with you but to help to see him with the eyes that the Lord see's him. I don't blame you for being nervous or scared about it tho..we never were really close to him ..we'd be just as nervous to have Kurt living in our home. They are both good men, we just don't know them very well. If it were Jarom, it'd be a world of difference, neither of us would hesitate. We know him and love him.
I guess I would tell them that you would be happy to have him with you and that way, when he ends up staying at Chiska's house, nothing good in all of your relationships would be undone.
Then again, if Nate just absolutely can't do it..or you can't because of whatever reason, still pray about how to talk about it with the family...beg Heavenly Father to help you say it in such a way as to not hurt anyone. They all are feeling really emotional right now..which all of us can understand more than they can ever know.
I'll keep you in my prayers too..thats such a tricky situation to be in..you poor girl. :(
Oh! And thank you so much for the pictures!! I haven't seen his kids since they were babies..I've never met his daughter..it's good to see them. Of course, its great to see everyone else too so thank you!
Frankly, I wouldn't do it. It will be extremely difficult to readjust him to the outside world in the same area where the guys who helped him get into trouble live. Plus, you may have to deal with smoking... I don't know if he still is doing that. I would just tell Mom and Janell that you just don't feel comfortable with it and stand your ground. Don't let her get you feeling guilty about it, and don't try to explain, she doesn't need to know the reasons. If she's that worried about it, he can stay in the extra room. There's only three kids at home and four rooms in which to stay, if they clean out your old room. Truth probably is that while mom wants Dallin to be in a good place, she probably doesn't want to deal with it herself, so she's asking you to do it for her. Idk. Just a few thoughts, but unless I lived much further away I wouldn't do it, too much could go wrong, and you KNOW who will be blamed for it if it does.
Wow, that is hard. But I would definitely follow the counsel of your husband. According the proclamation on the family he is there to preside. He has the right to revelation for your family. Is there a half-way house that he could go to? That would allow him some freedom without putting others at risk? Love you lots
I guess they don't want him to go to a halfway house because it is very hard to get out of. I don't know too much about it, but they want to avoid him having to stay in a halfway house. They promised that he wouldn't drink or smoke but I still dont think that I want him at our home even though he is our brother.
I like the music you picked for your site. It's nice.. Wish I could figure out how to do that. I know we have already talked about this... but I agree with Aunt chris and Laura.. Of course it's your decision. If you feel like you can't do it, or don't feel comfortable, Dallin would feel that from you...It would make a tense house for sure. If Nate doesn't want to.. than it's final. There is a saying that goes "You choose what you want and then you pay for it" This is him paying for it... but i also feel he deserves a feeling of love and acceptance from his family... I guess my mixed feelings are as bad as everyone elses. I hope you guys can figure it out without making hard feelings. We'll pray for you and Dallin to find the right way.
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