Update...

Sooo, here is an update in the Dallin drama.... On Monday of last week... Mom had Bryce call me and ask me if n8 and I can have Dallin stay at our house. I think Mom had Bryce called me because I like him more. Also, I think it is because she is afraid to ask me herself, kind of like the cookbook thing.

Anyway, I was glad that Bryce called me instead because he was rational about it. He completely understood when I told him that I didn't feel comfortable about it and that N8 didn't like the idea at all. N8 even wanted to make sure we were making the correct decision by talking to our bishop about it. He basically said that N8 is the patriarch of our home and if he doesn't have a good feeling, then we should listen to that.

I guess Mom was in the room with Bryce because I heard Mom saying things to Bryce. She kept talking to him the same time him or I were talking and I think he got frustrated and said, "Hold On..". Then he returned to the the phone and said, "Mom wants me to tell you that Kristal and Janell said that if Ben ever needed a place, then they would let him stay with them." It made me so mad to try to use Ben as leverage. I told Bryce, "First of all, out of our 9 kids, do you think that they would be Ben's first choice. Secondly, Janell has only a 2 bedroom apt and 2 kids...I dont think that she would even have the room and Kristal has no room to talk because she lives with mom and dad." It really irritated me that Mom had the guts to use that excuse...at that point I wanted to bring up the other incident with Dallin but I didnt.

I just told Bryce to tell them that we were sorry but couldnt have Dallin stay...Bryce replied, "Don't tell me sorry, I completely understand." I then told Bryce that he is more than welcome to come and live with us while Dallin lives with Mom and finds a job. Mom was completely against that and said that I was not going to raise her son. hmm!

Then I told Bryce that i understood that Mom, Janell, Kristal and maybe even Chiska will be mad at me. I told him to call me when things died down so we could come over again. I said that I probably wouldn't come over for a week or so...then Bryce said that it may be longer than that.

That was basically what happened on Monday...On Thursday, N8's friend had a guy party because he is getting married. So I thought I would call Eem and Bryce and see if they wanted to play racquetball. I called Bryce first and he sat and talked to me for about 10 minutes (which is really long for him) I was surprised and asked why he was talking to me for so long...he told me that he was bored because he was staying at Ryan's house (one of his best friends). Erggh!

I told him that he can come and stay with me, he said that he thinks that he might but mom wanted him at Ryan's because it is just a block away and closer to them. I think that is crap because we live about 2 miles away....they have only come to visit about 3 times in the last 7 months and 2 of the times was because we invited them. erggh! So, Bryce and I ended up just going to the mall and getting ice cream. Then him and Dad went bowling. He is pretty bummed about this because last Tuesday when they picked up Dallin, they basically told Bryce that he had to get his stuff and go. He came back later to grab a few more things and everyone told him that he had to go and couldn't be at home.

I haven't seen anyone at Mom and Dad's house since...on Sunday, I got a phone call from Dad...I answered cause i really miss him and can't really ask him to come over without making mom mad. He said, "Hello Stranger" I told him that I wasn't coming over until things died down and that I was too scared to come over with Kristal, Janell and Mom. He said that I had nothing to be afraid of...I think he was joking.

Then he told me that Bryce was staying at Ryan's house and I told him that Bryce can always come stay with us and then I hear Mom again in the background telling Dad to tell me the reason's why they have Bryce at Ryan's house. Dad repeated everything she told him...I was really mad because it was basically her decision and it sounds like he didn't take part in it at all..i wish he wasn't such a pushover. I then told Dad that if they needed a place for Bryce if it is longer than 2 weeks, he can come stay with us. Then mom said no and that it would only be a few weeks. After that, Dad told me not to be a stranger and come and visit because I had no reason to be scared. I told him that it would be a week or two before I came over.

Then.......Mom had Dad ask me when I was going to go to the temple with her and do some family names....erggh! There is no way that I would want to attend the temple with her and feel right about it. I have mean feelings towards her for trusting a friend more than me to give Bryce a place to live. I am upset that I feel like I cannot come over to their home and visit because I will be shunned by all the women at that house. I think it is a load of crap.

N8 doesn't know Dallin at all but looked him up in the online registry. I think he is a little freaked out that Dallin will come over and get mad at us...I know that won't happen, but we invested in a peep hole through our door to make him feel better so I don't answer the door to people I don't know or don't want to (since we have no windows there).

Well there is the update..I need a straw!!